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unknownshadeof:

rosalarian:

Gonna keep a tally of messages I get from a) white feminists completely proving my point and b) people who think this comic proves feminism is worthless because I criticized one part of it. (Even despite me writing these words underneath the comic.) Then I’ll add them all up, see which column has more, and then drink myself to sleep either way.

Haha… this is why we can’t have nice things.

This comic is perfect.

(via devotedtodiversityinart)

zeezeescorner:

Obstetric fistula is a condition that occurs during a prolonged childbirth where a woman lacks adequate healthcare. It results in tearing of the birth canal which leads to incontinence and results in 90% of babies being stillborn. As a result, women are left unable to control their bodies, leading to bad body odour. These women are often abandoned by their husbands and exiled from their communities for being “unclean.” It affects 2 million women in 55 countries. The condition is mostly preventable when women have access to healthcare and education. In most cases, surgery can repair damage.

UN-Secretary General Ban Ki-moon says: 

Women with obstetric fistula sometimes die in shame abandoned by their families and often suffer lifelong physical and emotional effects — but there is hope. Skilled professionals know how to treat patients. With support, those who have been ostracized can reintegrate into their societies.”

Watch this video narrated by ambassador Natalie Imbruglia to learn more about the condition & how to help.

she-hulk-smash:

Yuri Kochiyama is my activist role model because she specifically cared about and showed up for black, Latino, and Native American communities. Asian oppression was not her main focus with other oppression coming in second; her primary goal was dismantling white supremacy and she understood that fighting for ALL people of color was crucial in achieving that goal.

I am a pinay feminist but I cannot have my feminism be exclusively Asian. I have to be here for all of us and part of that is the acknowledgment of anti-blackness and shadeism in my community that needs to be eradicated. Antiblackness is a crucial component, if not the true heart of white supremacy, and if we don’t make the dismantling of that a priority in our feminism, we are operating on exclusivity and success at the expense of black people. We need to stop appropriating, stop aligning ourselves superficially, and for fuck’s sake, WE NEED TO STOP USING THE N WORD BECAUSE IT IS NOT OURS. We cannot claim to be activists if we willingly remain ignorant.

Discussion of oppression should not just cover intersectionality of individual identity, it should be about solidarity across communities.

haganenorekinjutsushi:

including the following: East Asian, Southeast Asian, South Asian, and West Asian/Middle East, the indigenous people of North Asia/Russia, and mixed race Asians
Like/reblog this post if you are a fellow feminist of Asian descent, no matter where you currently reside, so that I can follow you ^^
(I’m Korean, living in America.)

lucyandlouise:

Huda Shaarawi

  • Huda Shaarawi was born in Cairo, Egypt in 1879 to an affluent family
  • She was raised in the harem system, which kept women veiled and secluded from society
  • At thirteen, she was forced to marry her older cousin as his second wife
  • Huda refused to marry him at first ,but her family pressured her into the marriage
  • Soon Huda separated from husband and they stayed separated for several years
  • While separated from her husband, Huda was able to receive more education and became involved in activism
  • She was not happy with the harem system so she began to organize lectures for women, which brought women into the public for the first time in some cases
  • In 1908, she created an organization operated by Egyptian women that offered different services for poor women and children
  • In 1910, Huda opened a school for girls that focused on education rather than skills like midwifery
  • In 1919, she organized one of the largest Egyptian women’s anti-British demonstration
  • In 1922, Huda decided to stop wearing her veil after the death of her husband
  • In 1923, when she came back from a women’s conference in Europe, she reportedly stepped off the train and removed her veil
  • That same year Huda created the Egyptian Feminist Union, which is still active today
  • The organization focused on different women’s issues such as education, restrictions involving women’s clothing, and the organization lobbied to raise the minimum age of marriage for girls to sixteen
  • In 1927, Egypt opened its first secondary school for girls as a result of the Egyptian Feminist Union
  • In 1944, Huda founded the All Arab Federation of Women
  • She continued to be active in her organizations until she died in 1947 at the age of 68
  • Source: amazing women in history, wise muslim women, distinguished women
Every man who is pushed by his selfishness to trespass on the legitimate rights of women is robbing the rights of others and bringing harm to his country. He is an obstacle preventing the country from benefiting from the abilities and efforts of half the nation or more.
Huda Shaarawi - Speech to Arab Feminist Conference (1944)

tonidorsay:

Do not immediately defend yourself.  You defensiveness will want you to do so, but don’t.

Instead, post this picture in reply:

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Followed by this picture:

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And point out to them that they are not interested in an actual conversation, which you can tell by the violence and abuse their statements includes, as per the second picture.

Because they are not willing to change, and they are being abusive, anything they say in response is going to be part of the cycle unless it is an apology — and terfs do not apologize for being abusive bullies, and even when they do (because of posts like this), they are lying.

Because all TERFs and truscum are anti-LGBT, violent, misogynist, ignorant, incompetent, prejudiced, bigoted, deceitful, and dishonest, as well as opposing human and civil rights for everyone.

Indigenization often involved a rethinking of a Western idea. In India, for example, campaigns on the issue of domestic violence focused on dowry-related murders and the role of mothers-in-law as perpetrators of violence against women. Likewise, Chinese feminists extended the concept of domestic violence from the usually Western concept of ‘wife beating’ to include child beating, parent beating, husband beating, daughter-in-law abuse and elder abuse. Since women held the purse strings in Southeast Asia, the liberal feminist agenda for women’s control of the finances had to be readapted to societies where spiritual potency not wealth was the measure of status. In the Philippines, women’s health activists asked the question whether women had the capacity to make choices regarding health and reproductive health because they lacked money and access to basic services and feared the judgement of the powerful Catholic Church. In India and China, the two most populous Asian countries that experiences draconian population policies (one-child policy, sterilization programs), activists mobilizing on the issue of contraception had to fight against sex-selective abortion and female infanticide.

Mina Roces and Louise Edwards, Women’s Movements in Asia: Feminisms and Transnational Activism

The great feminist divide over the issue of whether prostitution is ‘sex work’ or ‘violence against women’ (VAW) has its Asian variant with activists lined up on both sides of these two camps. But here was another example of where the Asian context introduced new perspectives to the debate. Activists argued that poverty, sex tourism, the presence of American military bases and American servicemen on R&R leave as well as the trafficking of Asian women across national borders (all the way to Australia, the USA, Lebanon and Europe) needed to be considered in any discussion about prostitution as a feminist issue. As cities such as Manila and Bangkok earned reputations as ‘sex capitals’ of Asian for tourists looking for a ‘good time’, women’s organizations were committed to dismantling the Orientalist narrative that represented Asian women as ‘exotic’, ‘erotic’, and submissive women since this powerful myth perpetuated the view that Asian women were ‘available’ for sex. Activists from Asia not only has to debunk their local culture’s grand narratives of the feminine, they also had to destroy images perpetuated by foreigners (including colonial and imperial powers both Asian and Euro-American) who could not get beyond the sexualized image of the ‘Asian woman’.

Western white feminists have to stop acting as if something that worked for them will work for us. There are so many other factors that play into our lives. Nor is there such a thing as “quintessential ‘Asian woman’” when different religions, cultures and histories (including older and more recent political regimes and contexts) have shaped womanhood and femininity for different Asian women in different ways.

not-your-asian-fantasy:

The face of the US scientist is changing: Asian Americans now make up 14 percent of the science and engineering work force, according to recent data from the National Science Foundation (NSF), which can be found atwww.nsf.gov/statistics/seind08. With these numbers one would expect a proportionate increase in leadership positions. However, this is not the case.

In academia and federal institutes, Asian Americans encounter what some call a “bamboo ceiling,” similar to what female scientists faced 30 years ago. A diverse group, Asian Americans comprise numerous ethnicities, including Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Filipino, Indian, Southeast Asian, and Pacific Islanders. All lumped under the umbrella of the “model minority,” this community faces a number of misperceptions or stereotypes—some of which work in their favor and some of which do not. (NB: not sure about this “bamboo ceiling” catch phrase but there are some legit worrying stats in there.)

dating-as-an-asianguy:

I despise MRAs. In case you don’t know, MRA stands for “Men’s Rights Activist.” You’ll often find them trolling in the comments sections of news article that talks about rape, pay inequality, depiction of women in the media, etc. 

Here are some of their familiar choruses:

"Divorce court favors women!"

"Men have to fight in wars!"

"Men have to pay for first dates and face the risk of first rejection!"

"Women are privileged because they get to cry while men can’t!"

"Women are supposed to be submissive and deferential because biology."

"Waaaah, the hot girl in class won’t give me sex even though I’m Nice to her!"

You get the idea. Mainly, they’re guys who despise feminism because it has deflated the value of the Average Guy. For example, back in the 1950s, any Joe Schmoe with a high school education and a job was probably seen as a decent catch because most women relied on men for financial support. Fast forward to now, and with so many women having post-graduate degrees and their own income, suddenly Joe Schmoe isn’t worth so much on the sexual market anymore. 

He COULD work hard to improve himself and become more of an eligible bachelor (e.g. stay in shape, read some books, learn to cook), OR he could just sit on his ass and whine about the oppression that men face these days from those women. Yeah, you know those same women who dominate all 19% of Congress? 

Anyway, my point is that MRAs are despicable people and no confident and successful guy should want to be associated with them.

So it’s much to my dismay when I see Asian guys somehow sounding a lot like MRAs when they talk about certain advantages that Asian women have in American society. For example, Asian women are more readily accepted socially and romantically by the White majority. There is arguably more positive representation of Asian women than men in the media. Asian female news anchors are a common sight because Americans associate them with positive feminine qualities. Meanwhile, when and if Asian men show up in the media, it’s usually as villains (if we’re lucky) or as anti-sexual comic relief. 

When it comes to Asian American literature, America listens to the voices of Asian WOMEN, not men. Amy Tan and Maxine Hong Kingston are the Asian equivalents of Ralph Ellison and Langston Hughes; that is, minority writers that are presented to White Americans as being representative of their groups. It is almost certainly not a coincidence that both Tan and Kingston flatter the American ego at the expense of the Asian one, especially the Asian male one.

So in this context, how can Asian men talk about gender differences in our demographic without sounding like an MRA? It’s a very tricky situation, but here are some general pointers.

1) Don’t make it about sex

Things such as the interracial relationship disparity and Asian male stereotypes are key symptoms of anti-Asian prejudice, but don’t bring in your own sex life (or lack thereof) into the debate. This makes it sound as if your main complaint is that you’re not getting as many hot chicks as you think you deserve. That’s not a cause that most people want to support.

2) Be an ally of feminism

You can be critical of anti-Asian male prejudice AND support feminism. You can be critical of a certain branch of Asian feminism that seeks to demonize Asian men while ignoring the many transgressions of White men, and still be supportive of the idea of gender equality. If you can show that you’re an ally of feminism, then you can also neutralize the most broad-brush (and lazy kneejerk) attack against you, which is that you’re a sexist who wants to subjugate Asian women.

3) Don’t use terms like “sellout”

As a rule, you don’t want to insult or demonize people you’re trying to have a dialogue with. Sad fact is that there ARE indeed sellouts of all types who will try to fit in with the most dominant group. But name-calling ends debates before they even start, and we want to have a dialogue here.

4) Find sympathizers with non-Asian women

In my experience, non-Asian women often have an easier time empathizing with the issues of Asian men than some Asian women do, especially if those non-Asian women have had relationships with Asian men and know what kind of prejudices that we face. These women aren’t regressive anti-feminists; they’re well-educated feminists who don’t have racial blinders on when it comes to Asian issues. By finding White, Black, and Latina women who support you, you can again neutralize the inevitable attack against you that you’re just trying to figuratively bind Asian women’s feet.

5) Be an awesome person

The predictable ad hominem attack against you will be that you’re a typical Asian male loser who plays Starcraft all day and has no friends or girlfriends. Therefore, you’re just a whiner. While there are some people like that, it’s not as if Asian male discrimination only afflicts the dorks. Here’s Tim Chiou, a 6’2” handsome Asian actor, talking about how he knows what it’s like to be devalued for his Asianness. If you exhibit charisma, social ease, and a diverse group of friends, you will be given much more credibility when you speak out.

she-hulk-smash:

Yuri Kochiyama is my activist role model because she specifically cared about and showed up for black, Latino, and Native American communities. Asian oppression was not her main focus with other oppression coming in second; her primary goal was dismantling white supremacy and she understood that fighting for ALL people of color was crucial in achieving that goal.

I am a pinay feminist but I cannot have my feminism be exclusively Asian. I have to be here for all of us and part of that is the acknowledgment of anti-blackness and shadeism in my community that needs to be eradicated. Antiblackness is a crucial component, if not the true heart of white supremacy, and if we don’t make the dismantling of that a priority in our feminism, we are operating on exclusivity and success at the expense of black people. We need to stop appropriating, stop aligning ourselves superficially, and for fuck’s sake, WE NEED TO STOP USING THE N WORD BECAUSE IT IS NOT OURS. We cannot claim to be activists if we willingly remain ignorant.

Discussion of oppression should not just cover intersectionality of individual identity, it should be about solidarity across communities.
I had always known our reporting system is broken, but until this moment I’d always blamed myself for not having gone to the police with my story. Was I naive enough to truly believe they would have taken the words of a black teenager seriously, years after my assault? No. But that’s how internalized victim-blaming works: it doesn’t depend on facts or logic—the shame insists we silence ourselves.

But we’re talking back—and we always have been; What would a world in which all people felt empowered and supported to share the tyrannies we swallow every day even look like? What would it look like to envision justice outside the prison-industrial complex? I don’t have those answers yet, but I do know that we won’t get there until we commit to hearing the voices of people who know sexual violence most intimately. We won’t shape any meaningful policy or practice unless we center the needs and wants of the person whose life is affected most. We won’t get anywhere in this movement unless victims and survivors can chart their own paths toward healing—on their own terms and in their own words.
Men who refuse to take violence against women seriously until it happens right the fuck in front of their faces are as complicit in this injustice as men who commit violence against women. This is not to say that they are as individuals just as bad or just as sexist or whatever. It just means that, without their silence, their ignorance, their shrugging shoulders, this situation could not continue as it is. It cannot continue without the participation of men who commit violence, and it cannot continue without the participation of men who shrug it off or blame the victims or accuse them of “overreacting.” Both of these are gears have to turn in order for it to continue.

If you have to watch a woman be harassed or beaten or raped or almost raped in order to care, that means that even more women must be harassed or beaten or raped or almost raped in order for you to join in the fight against violence against women. If you have to watch a woman be harassed or beaten or raped or almost raped in order to care, that means that women’s personal accounts of violence–which they have little reason to lie about but many reasons to keep silent about–aren’t enough for you. If you have to watch a woman be harassed or beaten or raped or almost raped in order to care, that means that on some level–even if you won’t admit it–you think that there’s some level of “bad enough” that this shit needs to get before you’ll even acknowledge it as a problem, let alone actually do something about it.

[…] What’s it going to take for more men to actively, assertively challenge male violence against women? To shut down other men who excuse it or attempt to exonerate themselves by chanting “Not all men!” as though it were a magic spell? To refuse to support a type of masculinity that glorifies dominance and violence?

If what it takes is personally watching women being victimized by that type of masculinity, we’ve got a huge problem.

I’m not saying that it’s impossible for cis-het men to be feminists, but I am saying that it comes at the sacrifice of being a sexist, misogynist & a potential rapist. 

you’re not one of the good guys. 

if you think that some cis-het woman should be grateful that you’re not one of those “other” dudes, you know - cis-het dudes that openly insult or joke about rape…then, you’re not a feminist.  in that case, you differ only from those other cis-het dudes because you hide your entitlement, misogyny and rape threats.  you don’t get a “fuck a feminist free card” for setting a higher bar for circumstances where you would demean or rape.

you don’t get pussy if you say that you like feminism

feminism is not a gene pool. if you tell a cis-het feminist woman that you agree with or support feminism, she does not then need to fuck you. there’s really nothing more to say on this one. 

how to tell if you’re a sexist, misogynist and/or rapist - and not a feminist

  • do you ever find yourself thinking to yourself; or telling a cis-het woman that she if she gets raped by one of those other dudes, she’d learn her lesson (and her lesson being that you and your special penis are what she should be grateful for)?
  • do you think feminist means “likes to fuck”?
  • do you think that cis-het women are “real women” but that trans women are not?
  • do you get angry when you tell a cis-het woman that you like feminism and she doesn’t reward you with friendship or fucking?
  • do you get even angrier when, even after telling a cis-het woman how leftist and feminist you are, she calls you sexist or misogynist or not feminist?
  • do you get angry because cis-het women take you “out of context” and they fail to listen to your explanation of how you’re really one of the “good guys”?
  • do you think it’s OK for a groom to fuck a stripper at a bachelor party but not for a bride to fuck a male stripper at the bachelorette party?
  • do you think “bitch” or “pussy” or “cunt” are insults?
  • do you think that pussy is something to “get”?

if you answer ‘yes’ to any of these, you’re playing at feminism so that you can get your dick wet.  nobody believes you when you call yourself feminist / leftist / progressive - nobody, that is, except other leftist fail doodz. 

All but one of the mass murders in the U.S. over the last 30 years has been committed by men. The fact that gender is often omitted from the story speaks to how we still see the masculine as the irreproachable and invisible standard. As Michael Kimmel notes in his extensive research on school shootings, if the genders were reversed and most school shootings were committed by women, you’d bet gender would be part of the analysis. We often instead shift the conversation to “mental illness” and describe shooters as madmen, while the characteristics they exhibit are often an extension of toxic masculinity ideals that are institutionally reinforced.