Hijra by Takeshi Ishikawa
So, how advanced will the robot have to be for this to be considered intercouse instead of masturbation? Where will A.I. stand in the act of adultery?
“So, what am I?” [submitted by anonymous]
Actually, I don’t feel a desperate need for a label. There’s a whole collection that could apply to me and not one of them nor the whole collection would actually describe me.
For today I’m mostly interested in the label Sissy.
I am not what most people would expect of a sissy. I’m 6’3” and weigh in at about 240 lbs. I am a well paid professional, a father, and a craftsman. I am renovating my house with no professional assistance, including doing all my own plumbing and wiring, and no - this is not your average DIY disaster - I know what I’m doing. I regularly lift beams weighing up to 150 lbs and have on occasion lifted structures weighing in at over 300 lbs. I am - to use the Australian vernacular - built like a brick shit-house. I enjoy bungy-jumping, white water rafting, rock-climbing (My best is an Australian grade 22 lead climb - equivalent to a US 5.11a), bushwalking, caving, snorkelling (With a best free-dive to 60’) and scuba-diving (PADI advanced license - planning to train as a dive medic). I am at home in the australian bush, and have frequently handled snakes and spiders. I have performed a minor operation on myself using a scalpel to cut deep into damaged flesh. All in all, by many measures I would be seen as quite macho. I do try to make sure I am broadly skilled, and I can cook a meal, bandage an injury, change a nappy, talk with some confidence on politics, religion, or most science topics. I have a lot of privilege and am working to understand how it impacts those around me, and how best to grant as much privilege to them as well (I don’t think it’s a zero-sum-game).
I would like to think that in my own way I am reasonably broadly able.
So where does being a sissy come in?
Well that’s the thing - I am a sissy - it’s not part of what I do generally, but its a lot about what I feel. I’m not going to burst into tears if you push me. I learned a long time ago to stand up to bullies.
For me being a sissy is about wishing I could comfortably express a more feminine side. It’s about loving lace and soft fabrics. It is about wishing I could be cute and sexy and innocent and delicate. It is about wishing people instinctively wanted to look after me (rather than to be looked after by me)
Anyone with a basic psych 101 will be seeing all the macho stuff as compensation, and some of it is, but in practice I’ve come to understand that that comes from other sources altogether.
I’m posting this today, because I’ve read some other sissies posts and I want to be clear that what works for them isn’t good for all sissies.
(I am not saying they are wrong to want what they want - that’s them not me)
I don’t want you to cum in my face.
I don’t want you to bend me over the end of the bed and take me till I scream.
I don’t want you to humiliate me.
Most importantly - you DO need my permission to do anything to me - I may be a sissy, but I have the right to your respectful treatment.
Now if you talk with me, explain your desires, and enquire about mine, then we might find a way to play that we’ll both like.
I often wear pretty panties, and I’d be very happy to talk about good places to buy them it larger sizes (or even to show them off to you). I have a lot of cute dresses, and would love to play dress-ups. For the right girl, I’ll bend over the end of the bed and take it till I wet myself. But only after we negotiate like adults about what we each want and how we will play safely.
In other words, while I am always and I expect I will always be a sissy, I am also an adult, with the right to sovereignty over my body, just as I expect you are and have over yours.
My nature grants no-one any rights over me.
These days sissy is a badge I wear with quiet pride. I hope you can wear your chosen labels in the same way.
Intersex
Sex
- Designation based on biology
Gender
- Socially constructed and expressed
Sex and gender are inconsistent for transgendered individuals
Chromosomal Pairs
- XX
- XY
- XO
- XXX
- XXY
- XYY
- occasionally individuals have some XY cells and some XX cells
Intersexed
- Biological qualities of each sex
Sexual development is also influenced by hormones
Biology influences how we develop but doesn’t absolutely determine behavior, personality, etc.
Claudia Is Intersex, Let's Talk About It
Intersex people are born with a mix of sex characteristics – some traditionally considered male, and some considered female – in the same body. For example, I have a vagina and later developed breasts and hips, but I also have XY chromosomes, and had testes at birth. I’ve got some “male” traits and some “female” traits in the same body, so it’s not so easy to clearly assign me “male” or “female.” My own body is just one example; intersex isn’t a single category, and there are many different variations of intersex and, within each variation, a lot of diversity. Not all male or female bodies look and function the same, you know? Knowing that I’m intersex alone doesn’t really tell you much about me or my body.
Full article here
Just a little faith in humanity
Charging more for men at events
As a self-labelled feminist, I find the idea of charging more for admittance to sex based events (like swingers clubs or fetish clubs) a backwards step to the feminist cause. But NOT because it is unfair to the men. It’s because it is unfair to the women.
The oft cited reason for charging men more is to restrict numbers and make the atmosphere better. Unfortunately this implies that an event with more men has a less pleasant and more predatory atmosphere. I don’t like this assumption. This suggests that men are incapable of behaving appropriately at events and for want of a better phrase, keeping their hands to themselves. Having to physically restrict the amount of single men shouldn’t be the answer, education and vetting should be. Let the men be responsible for their own decisions on how they behave, and if they don’t comply with the rules then kick them out, as you would with anyone else. At the end of the day, don’t pose behind ‘equal numbers’ as a way to make more profit. If equal numbers truly were a problem, then just keep a register and admit one man for every woman. Anything else is just a profit making exercise hiding behind the women’s cause.
However that is not the main thing I want to talk about.
By restricting the number of single men but allowing unlimited single women, the club is rejecting the idea of a woman’s choice in her sexuality.
By allowing more women than men, you are giving men the power. You are giving men the choice. You are saying that men want to choose from multiple women but women should put up with what they can get. You are saying that all men should be good enough for women - hence why you don’t need to let many men in, but you’re saying that men should be allowed to choose the pick of the bunch and reject those that aren’t good enough.
You’re also saying that women should be happy playing with other women. That a couple is only going to want to invite a woman to join them, not a man. That it’s ok for women to be a ‘third’, but not a man. Once again you’re giving men the power here, to indulge their fantasies. To support the idea that threesomes (and moresomes) are all about multiple woman and one man. You’re supporting that stereotype that is forced on us as we grow up. That women are desirable to men, but men are not desirable in the same way.
You’re only accepting bisexuality in women and not in men. It’s expected for a woman to be bisexual in this world. Because all women like other women really, right? When I tell people I’m not really bisexual, only for very special women, I am looked at like I’m a freak. “So how does your dom feel about you not playing with other women for him?” well to be honest, he’s quite alright with that. We’d rather play with other men anyway.
And that’s just it. By taking away the amounts of single men at events you’re taking away the likelihood of meeting a hot bisexual man. That’s one of the reasons we go, you know. To meet a nice (or maybe not so nice?) man. A man who has the same interests as us - fetish clubs, swinging etc. Where better to find one than at a fetish or swingers club? Oh no, wait. It’s NOT a good place to find them, because bisexual men are constantly rejected by this world as not being up to standard. Including by restricting their access to clubs and similar but charging them extortionate prices.
You’re also rejecting MY sexuality as well as the bisexual men. I like men. Most women like men. Given the choice I would rather play at a club with ten men than a single woman. And you’re taking away my ability to act on this. But a man wanting to play with ten women… well that’s perfectly acceptable. I want to go to clubs to fulfil my fantasies, not to help a load of straight couples fulfil theirs.
But the biggest problem is this one.
If I attend such a club as a single women, the burden is on me. It’s like when you go on a date and a man buys you flowers. The burden is on you to perform and reciprocate the value, generally in sexual favours. That’s how the patriarchal power exchange between man and woman works, like it or not.
When I attend a club as a single woman and I pay a quarter of the price of a single man, I know that the single man is expecting to get more than me out of the experience because he has paid four times as much. This means that he will be looking for the women to perform for him, to get his money’s worth. I’m not saying this is a conscious thought, but think about it. When you open a bottle of Stella, do you expect the same drinking experience as a 50p can of value lager? Of course you don’t. It’s reassuringly expensive for a reason, it’s built into our psychology.
So by charging more for single men, you’re turning the single women into a sex object, designed to entertain the single men.
And clubs reinforce this by the dress codes. By telling women to ‘be daring’ or ‘dress to impress’ while saying that men have to wear a shirt and shoes as a minimum. Why aren’t we telling men to be daring or dress sexy? But that is another post.
So I believe that by creating an atmosphere of equality by charging everyone the same, you would take the pressure off the single women and perhaps even attract more, evening up the numbers that way instead. And best of all, you wouldn’t be putting pressure on me, as a single woman, to do things that I don’t want to do
File Under State Mandated Emotional Abuse and Cultivation of Unsafe Conditions for Children
http://thinkprogress.org/lgbt/2013/01/30/1514051/dont-say-gay-tennessee/?mobile=nc
In current debates on marriage equality, it’s usually assumed intersex people will gain equal rights when gay marriage has been legalized or that they already have equal rights. Unfortunately though, neither is the case.
Terminology is of much importance here…
a very interesting article: http://bit.ly/Pphlf5
The Other “F” Word: Sex, Gender & Fat Bodies in Pop Culture
Check out this radio piece I made last semester where I talk about FAT stereotypes in pop culture, through shows like The Parkers and the movie Bridesmaids.
