If you are a woman. If you are a Person of Colour. If you are gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, if you’re a person of size, if you’re a person of intelligence, if you’re a person of integrity, then you are considered a minority in this world. And it’s gonna be really hard to find messages of self-love, and support anywhere, especially women’s and gay men’s culture. It’s all about how you have to look a certain way or else you’re worthless. You know when you look in the mirror, and you think, ‘Ugh, I’m so fat, I’m so old, I’m so ugly’, don’t you know that’s not your authentic self, but that is billions upon billions of dollars of advertising, magazines, movies, billboards, all geared to make you feel shitty about yourself so that you will take your hard-earned money and spend it on some turnaround cream that doesn’t turnaround shit.
When you don’t have self-esteem, you will hesitate before you do anything in your life. You will hesitate to go for the job you really wanna go for. You will hesitate to ask for a raise. You will hesitate to report a rape. You will hesitate to defend yourself when you are discriminated against because of your race, your sexuality, your size, your gender. You will hesitate to vote. You will hesitate to dream.
For us to have self-esteem is truly an act of revolution. And our revolution is long-overdue. Margaret Cho (via kayarghhh)
i love my stretchmarks.
i remember when i first got them, and they were purple and my mother told me they’d never go away, and i cried because i found them hideous.
she didn’t tell me how they change. now they’re silvery and they’re everywhere. they make my skin glitter, and i adore them.
that is too cute though
I remember when I first got stretch marks on my stomach and my mom saw them when we were shopping for jeans. My mother would always ask me to pull up my shirt to see how the pants fit around the waist, something I do now to people when I’m shopping with them for pants. (Also from working in a mall store selling denim, this was something I instinctively asked them… oops.) She saw the fresh crimson stripes on my stomach and immediately wondered out loud why I had stretch marks already. (I believe I was around 12 at the time.) The way she talked about them in my confusion, the way she referenced them so negatively on her own body; it shaped me to hate them as well.
My stretch marks are white and faded now, silvery as team-artemis mentioned, and to me they are marks of growth. Both literal and figurative, they map the lengthening and stretching of my skin as I grew taller, grew hips, breasts and a belly. They mark the journey of relationship with my body now, where I was at 15 wishing I could cut off the fat of my body, those striped places of flesh I hated so much, to where I am now just at 22, tracing them with my finger tips and willing them to be kissed by my lover so I can know they love them just as much as I do now.
If you’re gonna fuck me
You need to be down with the fat rolls
and the stretch marks
and the chub rub.
If you looking at the inside of my thighs and you’re like “ew they are dark. You got chub rub”. You ain’t down there for the right reason. You ain’t sight seeing.
Enjoy my cellulite.
Love my belly.
Like because I’m tired of being insecure during sex. I’m not leaving my clothes on. I ain’t turning the light off. I’m not sucking my stomach in.
Because if you really want to fuck me. You gotta fuck all of me. You gotta love all of me.
I’m not gonna not enjoy sex because of your bullshit standards.
You can take yo shit elsewhere.
I got dick lined up.
I got pussy lined up.
I can get mine elsewhere.
You missed out on some good ass fat sex.
Links & Resources.
- Finally, A Feminism 101 Blog - Frequently Answered Questions
- Feminist Literature (Tumblr)
- Feminist texts written by women of color (Tumblr)
- fuckyeahfeminists (Tumblr)
- grrrlpower (Tumblr)
Racism, Race, & Culture
- Institutional/Structural Racism Within a Context: A Historical Glimpse at the Concept of “Race”
- Definitions - Racism Free Ontario Initiative
- Different Forms of Racism
- What is a Microaggression? What are Racial Microagressions?
- Appropriation vs. Appreciation
- A Look at the Myth of Reverse Racism
- Who are People of Colour? Why can’t I use the term “coloured”?
- Colourblindness: Colorblind Ideology is a Form of Racism
- The Angry Eye (YouTube)
- Racialicious (Tumblr)
- ladyatheist (Tumblr)
Sizeism & Body Positivity
- Truth Behind Fat: References
- Obesity, Health, and Metabolic Fitness
- Don’t You Realize Fat Is Unhealthy?
- Diets Don’t Work, But…
- Reality vs. Relativism
- THE HAES MANIFESTO (pdf)
- Fat Acceptance FAQ
- redefiningbodyimage (Tumblr)
GSM (Gender & Sexuality Minorities)
- Project Queer (Tumblr)
- Trans* Awareness (Tumblr)
- Trans Etiquette 101: No Offense, But That’s Offensive (Tumblr)
- Cissexism, Transphobia, & Cissupremacy. (Tumblr)
- So what’s a genderqueer, eh? (Tumblr)
- Gender Neutral Pronoun Blog
- The Spoon Theory written by Christine Miserandino
- Ableist Word Profile
- Don’t Support Autism Speaks
- I’m Autistic, But Autism Speaks Doesn’t Speak for Me.
- An Autistic Speaks About Autism Speaks
- Why I am against Autism Speaks (Tumblr)
- Checking Your Privilege 101 (pdf)
- Male privilege checklist (pdf)
- White Privilege Checklist (pdf)
- Binary-Gender Privilege Checklist
- Cis Privilege Checklist
- Heterosexual privilege checklist (pdf)
- Checklist of Neurotypical Privilege
- Christian Privilege Checklist
- Christian Privileges in American Society: Hidden Ways Christians are Privileged
- Privilege even in veganism
- Vegan Privilege
feeling insecure because of internalized body hate
post pictures on my body appreciation blog