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Modi translations: expect more caste mass murder.


Photo: V. Raju
Photo: V. Raju
What exactly does Modi mean when he says he does not want women to be ‘just homemakers’?

The election season is upon us. The weather wanes are already predicting which way the wind will blow two months from now. I am neither brave, nor foolhardy enough to hazard a guess.

It is also the season for promises and pronouncements. Some predictable, some surprising and many that strain credulity. So on March 8, International Women’s Day, I received an e-mail in my mailbox with the subject line: ‘Give India the Leadership She deserves: Happy Women’s Day’.

The e-mail urged me to contribute to the ‘cause of India’ and ‘for a better tomorrow’. It then went on to state that the Prime Ministerial aspirant of the Bharatiya Janata Party (BJP), Narendra Modi, believed that ‘women should not just be homemakers but national builders’. It averred that the ‘cause of India’ would be better served if women contributed to the ‘Modi for PM fund’ — an investment in what, I presume, ‘Team BJP’ that sent out this mail believes will be ‘a better tomorrow’.

The e-mail, which I was tempted to mark as spam and delete, is interesting for a number of reasons. First, it is surprising that a party that must surely not lack for funds feels the need to send out unsolicited e-mails to women to get funds.

Secondly, the level of confusion in what appears to be a straightforward message aimed at potential women voters. What exactly does Modi mean when he says he does not want women to be ‘just homemakers’? Being a homemaker is neither ‘just’ nor easy. In any case, no woman is ‘just’ a homemaker. She is that because she has no choice. But in addition she is many other things — a mother, a wife, a sister, a daughter, an aunt, a grandmother, a politician, a journalist, a pilot, a seamstress, a scientist, a lawyer, a businesswoman, a farmer, a construction labourer, a domestic help — the list is endless.

Furthermore, how do you become a ‘nation builder’? What are the qualifications for this job? Does a woman who is ‘just’ a homemaker need some additional skills to be a ‘nation builder’? Is it possible to be ‘just’ a homemaker and also a ‘nation builder’? And then how do you ‘build’ a nation? Clearly, the advisors to the BJP’s prime ministerial aspirant need to inspect their formulations more closely.

As an aside, one might add, that a recent national time-use survey by the Organisation for Economic Cooperation and Development (OECD) found that Indian men spent the least time in doing unpaid housework. While men in Slovenia topped the list averaging 114 minutes a day, Indian men did a paltry 19 minutes a day of unpaid housework. Given this, do Indian women really have a choice when it comes to unpaid housework?

Then let us look at the other half of that statement. What do the BJP and Modi have in mind when they speak of ‘nation building’ in the same breath as women’s empowerment? Do they have any idea about the kind of nation women want to build? Will women want a nation divided along the lines of religion or caste? Or would they prefer one where you can live in peace with your neighbour, where you and your children feel secure, where you know you will not be excluded, attacked, persecuted on grounds of religion or political conviction?

What kind of ‘nation’ does a poor Muslim woman living in Ahmedabad’s Juhapura want? Or the women living in constant fear of actions by the Indian army or sundry militant groups in a state like Manipur? Or the women who live in slums in so many of our cities where they have to confront the daily reality of eviction and homelessness? Or the women living in forests who see the natural resources on which their lives depend being bartered away to big business? Is there anything in common between the kind of ‘nation’ these women want to build and the notion of ‘nation’ to which the senders of the above e-mail subscribe?

I suppose over the next months, we must resign ourselves to hearing more of such grand sweeping statements thrown at us by politicians or political parties who appear to be convinced that all women are simple and gullible.

Fortunately, elections in India have a way of coming up with unexpected twists and turns. The Indian voter has now become something of a veteran at the political game. She now knows the value of her vote. She knows she can either listen, or pretend to listen; she can volunteer an opinion or hold her silence; she can accept every free lunch offered to her, or reject all; and that in the end she is free to make a choice that is her own.

sharma.kalpana@yahoo.com

ok, this book is great if you’re a rapist who likes fantasies about how magical rape can be.

I read this book 30 years ago when I was in the ‘green berets’ and somehow did not remember that part of this story.  perhaps my tolerance for reading about violence was skewed.  with all the violent things I was trained to do, I didn’t let anything upset me.  plus, I was still a drinking alcoholic.  regardless - I noticed it this time.

my friend and I are reading books together to discuss them and I remembered that this was a fantasy about fairies, elves and an overlap between their world and ours.  I had a vague recollection of it being melancholic and lyrical.  which, it is in its overall tone.

my friend didn’t like it and she bailed before I did.  to use her words, as a woman, she felt "actively unwanted".  she couldn’t find a character to latch onto.  I was happy with all the pretty words and meanderings in countrysides, traces of fantasy and overlapping family histories that were developing, so I didn’t quite catch on to what she experienced.

then, I reached the rape part of the novel.

so, one of the primary characters is a woman named sophie.  she spends a lot of time in dreams / dreamland / fever / bed rest.  she’s not entirely lucid and her ability to give consent is impaired…or at the very least, highly suspect.  so what does this dude author write for her to advance her character in the story?  he has her cousin rape her in a semi-conscious state.  when said rapist cousin is en route back to her bedroom for another rape, he encounters the husband of sophie’s sister coming out of sophie’s bedroom after also raping her.

if I were reading a paper book again, it would have been in the fireplace that instant.  with ebooks and audiobooks, I can’t press ‘delete’ fast enough.  which is what I did, right there and then. 

to make matters worse in this tripe, the author later tells how sophie gives birth to a child from being raped by her brother-in-law and the author has the child mysteriously disappear at the hands of the magical creatures in the tale.  apparently, (and this is extremely fucked in the head) these creatures felt that the presence of this child would create conflict in that house because it was proof / reminder of the husband’s ‘straying’ - not rape, nope, not that…’straying’.

looking back now, I see what my friend was talking about.  women in this book are magical breeders, reading cards, wandering in and out of magical worlds and spitting out children.  all the action, perspective, angst, choices, character focus/alleged growth are male bodies. 

as my co-reader and I discuss the book choices for ourselves, we trip over one constant problem - dude writers and their misogynistic bullshit.  we are constantly pressed to find a dude writer that can fill out a page without being either covertly or overtly a sexist fuck stain.

and please, dear god, do not mention George R.R. Martin…I am not interested in reading about the equality of white women only.  speaking of race, this book is lily fucking white.

attn dude writers: rape is not a character arc for women in stories!

attn white dude fantasy writers: I will personally write a fantasy novel about a dragon that shits all over the racist garbage and your pathetic excuses for being racist and I will title it “the flying dragon turds of hybernia”.

show me a famous dude writer that is not a sexist shit.  it can’t be someone who was ‘advanced for his time’.  I mean, show me a dude writer that writes across race and gender and class with equality and I will show you a fucking miracle.  (and I’ll read it)

I’m not from India nor did I ever vacation there.  I don’t take yoga and I don’t own the Kama Sutra (why bother, when I can download it for free, anyway?)  So, I’m not an expert and I’m probably more wrong than right.  No cookies for pointing that out.  That said, here goes anyway.

Recently - Arundhati Roy agreed to write an introductory essay to “Annihilation of Caste: The Annotated Critical edition by B.R. Ambedkar" which she titled, "The Doctor and the Saint: An introduction”.  Hindu nationalists like the BJP love to get their outrage underpants all bunched up whenever Roy does anything other than keep her mouth shut, basically.  Roy’s introduction to Ambedkar’s work may cause Hindu nationalists like the BJP to be outraged that she dare to say anything that is anti-Hindu (which is basically anything that is not unquestioningly pro-Hindu/BJP). The BJP is for all intents and purposes, India’s GOP.  So, their outrage comes as no surprise for her association with a speech that Ambedkar wrote to challenge progressive Hindus on their own desire to reap the benefits of caste are antithetical to their stated organizational goals and perpetuating the targeted oppression of lower castes.  

Ms. Roy is fairly leftist, challenging empire, corporate-military capitalism, caste and so - she’s an easy and constant target for people born into wealth and status and whose bank accounts seem to do very well when the ultra-nationalist BJP gets their way.  

Ms. Roy is herself from an upper caste, a topic that has often materialized by BJP party supporters suggesting that she is not Dalit or is Brahmin, so she should shut up with anything that makes Hindus look bad.  Her recent selection to write this introduction, has brought up a the question of why is the introduction of a lower caste Indian who challenged caste, being authored by an upper caste Indian?  

"Roy, this time doesn’t find herself solely attacked by the Right, or her usual club of We Must Hate On Roy In All Seasons Fanboys (well, not entirely). This time, it’s the Dalit community too, visibly hurt and angered by Navayana’s decision to have Roy write the introduction to Annihilation of Caste—given this is a publication house that makes its livelihood and brand (another not-co-incidence?) by portraying themselves to be ostensibly anti-caste. It’s a little more complex argument than, “Dalit People Should Write About Dalit People Only”—which, sadly seems to be the hasty summary most of us have come to. Ambedkar’s essay is famous and infamous for taking on Gandhi, an act that cost Ambedkar dearly—and his seat in the Parliament for starters. Famous because he put into words the intense sense of betrayal Gandhi and Gandhism brings to the issue of caste (what with wanting to abolishing only the practice of untouchability while leaving in tact the other social, sexual, economic and emotional segregation that caste-based societies foster). Gandhi has become (and perhaps always was) the straw-man argument we often throw to the ex-untouchable castes, for their derision of the “Mahatma” (“BUT DON’T YOU SEE HE WAS ON *YOUR* SIDE, YOU UNGRATEFUL RASCAL!!11!”), a betrayal that me and mine will never experience. Or even if we will, this disillusionment with Gandhi won’t cost us (and our families) livelihoods, access to education. Roy, while her introduction may be as insightful as her other works, simply lacks this connection. It’s unfair to expect her to comment on the experience of reading and encountering this essay, sure. But I’d rather ask why wouldn’t Navayana put someone with *this* history of reading and encountering Ambedkar (for instance, one of my seniors at uni, M* was working on the different Ambedkars she met in the course of her life: the Bhimrao in the Buddhist shrines, Bhimrao she met at protests and the Dr. Ambedkar who she found at university, in libraries and academic texts). It’s a failed opportunity to have Roy write an introduction—good business though, she is after all, the face brand of the revolution—to such a seminal text. It’s not a conversation about cultural relativism, but one that we must own up to: Why Are Most Of Our Beloved Ambedkerite Scholars Upper-Caste Scholars?

- woh-battameez asked in her summary of the contexts surrounding this topic.  (bold added by me)

(btw - woh-battameez is a great read for any number of topics weaving through Indian politics and culture, in and outside the lens of academia.  Especially if one cares to do more than regurgitate the PR talking points of corporate nationalists like the BJP or the colonial worldview of the UK/BBC.  There are many such voices to be found, but not on corporate sponsored venues, so check her out and you will be glad that you did.)

And it is this final point that what brought me to this post, with two questions:  

  1. How familiar is this caste dynamic in the US?

  2. Are the expressions of those challenging US caste framed / retold in the words of the upper caste?  

How familiar is this caste dynamic in the US?  White Christians obliterated, slaughtered and silenced the indigenous peoples of the Americas.  While doing so, the peoples of Asia and Africa that were enslaved for the labor of taking two continents.  Then, in the continued occupation, systematic devaluation by isolating indigenous, African and Asian culture and targeting them with laws and law enforcement to criminalize and impoverish them.  The net result is that there are consistent groups of people who have had access to wealth and the protection of the rule of law and there are groups who have access to neither.  There are groups who have more or less wealth than others and with more wealth comes less criminalization.  Our castes are further codified by race and gender identity.  One thing is clear: the same people are rich and poor as they were 300 years ago.

What does caste do?  If nation states are defined by demographics and numbers, then who created such reasoning?  Demographics do not exist as molecular compounds or properties or states of energy or mass.  Demographics are not objective. demographics are a fancy way of making gang warfare sound like science, like fact, like reality, like they are beyond change and must be accepted.  And it is this last bit "must be accepted", which is the whole reason.  Demographics, caste, class, religion - these are methods to reinforce the message that some people will prosper so long as others suffer.  This is what caste delivers.

What cultural beliefs / systems / institutions deliver what caste does?  Why don’t we in the US call it ‘caste’?  In what ways do we as “Americans” codify caste?  If we look at how we codify race, poverty and gender, do we see any clues?  One clue might be in the US aversion in our mythology to embrace elites.  We have them, but we don’t call them that.  We demonize academics as elites, but they are not the elites that have all the wealth.  Our wealthiest are called ‘entrepreneurs’, ‘visionaries’, ‘mavericks’ and ‘job creators’ (patriarchal mythology at its finest) and ‘self-starters’.  

One thing I tend to believe is that social and cultural behaviours end up where they were intended to go.  So, that the US denies our elites means we’re in denial.  Why are the same people are poor and wealthy as were 200 years ago?  Through it all, if we look at the demographics, most of the country is poor and getting poorer while those who were born rich are staying rich and getting richer.  “if it looks like a duck…it’s a caste duck.”

Are the voices of those challenging US caste framed / retold in the words of the upper caste?

Who writes the books from the voices of those in these lower US castes? 

Activists are written out of history books, like Cesar Chavez, who spoke from being a farm worker for the rights of millions of humans harvesting the food we eat.  He was / is labeled in many negative terms by the hoarders of wealth who profited from the human misery and toil right here in the US.  Or, like Angela Davis, they are criminalized for speaking out and acting out against police and prison injustice.  Authors or academics are labeled as ‘elites’, ‘socialist’ or ‘Ivy Leaguers’ or any number of insults to demean someone who ‘hates America’ and so forth. 

The newspapers and TV news outlets are also labeled as this same group of ‘elitists’ when, ironically they have been owned by the real US elites for decades.  Most news anchors have as little in common with the perpetually impoverished majority of the US as does any Kshatriya news anchor does with the millions of Dalits.  

Who writes the books, reports the news, documents the lives of US lower castes from being a member of those castes?  During the Great Depression, when the income inequality collapsed the global economy, obliterating the middle class caste, the chain of participation was broken.  The bribe paid to the middle class caste is that if we participate in caste, we will have some rewards over the poor caste.  When that promise was broken, voices like Woody Guthrie, John Steinbeck and other men (sexism and racism stayed intact through the collapse) spoke out and were heard because so many poor existed with too small a buffer of middle class caste in place to silence those voices.  Those voices have been reduced to paragraphs in a social studies book, if that and tested on a pop-quiz.  Gone from the minds of children before the end of 8th grade.  

As I look at India and the US, I see lots of differences and similarities, and there’s no telling if my views are accurate or not.  That may not be the point though.  Both India and the US have blind spots when we look at our own cultures, but may be able to see in the other culture some features of their culture that exist in our own blind spots.  If we resist the temptation to go colonial and declare how great we are for not being like them…maybe we can learn and grow for the good of all instead of some.

The castes that  benefit from our ignorance are ever working to make those blind spots even bigger.  If you are reading this, and you live in the US, you and I and anyone else seeing it - are not in the bottom caste.  It is me and you and the rest of us that perpetuate US caste to see into these blind spots and undo caste - or it won’t be done.  The upper castes will not undo caste and the lower castes cannot do it alone. 

 

nitanahkohe:

Restoring the Balance: Beverly Jacobs on Aboriginal Women’s Issues in Canada

"Oh you think brown women are like wild animals. Wait right there…I have something for you"

"Oh you think brown women are like wild animals. Wait right there…I have something for you"

I’m definitely pro-selfie. I think that anybody who’s anti-selfie is really just a hater. Because, truthfully, why shouldn’t people take pictures of themselves? When I’m on Instagram and I see that somebody took a picture of themselves, I’m like, ‘Thank you.’ I don’t need to see a picture of the sky, the trees, plants. There’s only one you. I could Google image search ‘the sky’ and I would probably see beautiful images to knock my socks off. But I can’t Google, you know, ‘What does my friend look like today?’ For you to be able to take a picture of yourself that you feel good enough about to share with the world – I think that’s a great thing.
"Men are afraid that women will laugh at them.  Women are afraid that men will kill them." - Margaret Atwood

"Men are afraid that women will laugh at them.  Women are afraid that men will kill them." - Margaret Atwood

apoemaboutmyrights:

blk-superwoman

by Shenita Ann McLean

I am a poor Black woman in America.  I have privileges, yes (e.g. cisheterosexual, able bodied, education). But lets understand something here, privileges aren’t linear or additive so its not some easy equation where you add them with disadvantage & they just spit out your statistically likelihood to get fucked over or get over on someone else.  So let me say this again, I am a poor Black woman in America.  And quite frankly, I’m pissed.  But a number of the components of my identity don’t allow me to be pissed/angry/dissatisfied or hell, even tired.  You know why?  Well you probably do.  There is a politic to being a Black woman.  There is a kind of superwomanly otherness associated with such being.  Many of you see “superwoman” & either begin signing that Alicia Keys song or for some odd reason think its a good thing.  Its not.  Strong Black Woman (SBW)! Oh, I’d be rich if I got a penny for every time I have been called that shit. Its not a compliement either.  Being called an SBW is practically equivalent to Superman being called Kal El.  Its within the same complexity and otherness of superwomanhood.  You got the regular name/alias, you got “superwoman”, then SBW hailing from some distant planet that imperialist White supremacist racist cisheteropatriarchal capitalism deems odd where Black women are these Amazonian, freak of nature beings who suffer the pain of their lives & others all with a smile on their face.  The superwomanhood of Black women is not a compliment honey.  Tamara Beauboeuf-Lafontant states, “And herein lies the problem. Because the idea of strength appears to honestly reflect Black women’s extensive work and family demands, as well as their accomplishments under far from favorable social conditions, the concept seems to provide a simple and in fact honorable recognition of their lives” (2009:2).  Let me help you understand why.

aliceinpunderland:

You should date a boy who reads. Date a boy who never asks what you spend your money on, because unless you’re going to murder him with it it’s none of his damn business. Date a boy who won’t go through your closet. Date a boy who will use his library card to research how the patriarchy encourages men to disrespect women’s boundries.

Find a boy who reads. You’ll know he does because he’s never talking that shit about “what was she wearing” and “girls only like douchebags” and “check out my sweet-ass fedora”. He’s the one rolling his eyes at the John Green display, the one reblogging your posts about black feminism with that “tell me more” gif from Grease.

He’s the boy who doesn’t invite himself into your personal space; he’s the boy who waits to be invited. When he asks about your book, he’s asking about your book, and when you tell him to hit the bricks, he is the boy who nods, smiles, and Rocky Balboas into the concrete.

You already have a cup of coffee.

Let him know what you think of the word “friendzone”. See if he thinks misandry is real. Understand that if he thinks you’re just trying to sound as intelligent as he is, he’s never even read Ulysses. Ask him to leave you alone with Alice.

If he lies to you?

Leave him.

Date a boy who respects you.

Date a boy who reads.

pumpkinskull:

armintitansmouth:

fable-keeper:

DANGER! DANGER FOR TEXAS WOMEN! 

fucking shit is this for real

this is disgusting. in texas you now need original copies of any name-change documentation, such as marriage or divorce papers, in order to vote - photocopies are not allowed. this will impede 34% of texan women from voting.

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